Ending a marriage is one of the most devastating and stressful events that a person can go through. Those intense feelings can be heightened when the custody of children is at stake, along with the financial side of divorce.
Going through this process is only more difficult during a pandemic due to increased economic struggles for many, as well as the added strain on the justice system after courts were closed for several weeks. But there are steps you can take to relieve the anxiety and focus on a better future.
Tips for making divorce easier on your family
You have no control over the pandemic or the backlog in the court system, but you can take charge of the way you respond to help make the process smoother. Focus on:
- Ensuring divorce is the right step: Divorce is permanent and should only be taken when no other option exists to save a marriage. Make sure it’s the right step for you, and don’t be influenced by others who may have gone through similar circumstances.
- Maintaining respect: Respecting a soon-to-be-ex may be extremely difficult if a marriage contains infidelity, drug abuse or worse. You may want to have your “day in court.” However, lengthy court battles can cause even more strife. Maintaining a respectful tone can save time, money and anxiety for you and your children.
- Being on the same page: Divorcing spouses often feel like they’re zooming off in different directions. However, sharing a common goal can help both parties reach a quicker and reasonable outcome. For parents, putting the kids first should always be the priority and working together can also set a positive tone for a future co-parenting relationship.
- Considering all options: Litigation is expensive and going to court can lead to a bitter and contentious future with an ex-spouse. Working together through a collaborative process helps families reduce costs, keeps conflicts private and helps establish a respectful environment moving forward.
Focus on the future
The past several months have been extremely stressful for most Americans but adding divorce to an already challenging time can be even more daunting. However, realizing that things will get better and putting the past behind you can help make divorce a liberating experience.
Working with a compassionate family law attorney who understands the benefits of negotiation can be helpful. However, your lawyer will always look out for your best interests and fight for you in court, if necessary, to help you start your new chapter on the best footing possible.